Suppose here is a very evil-hearted guy. He uses people, cheats everybody else in order to get promoted. There seems to be no good things inside him, but…one day you happen to know what happend to him before, and why he has changed. Under the mask, he is suffering from the pain everytime he hurts people. And you are the only one who knows about it, so you feel you would like to ease his pain…We call this 母性本能[bosei honnou] or mother instinct that any women have. Like mothers protect kids, women have instinct to protect what they take care of. However, because he is such an evil guy most of the times, you would find your 母性本能 in such a weakness, wouldn’t you? What if he is always so negative? What if he shows his weakness all the time? Would you think you can follow him?
Now, I shall introduce a bit funny trend which origins from a certain blog. The blogger is a single woman who is over 30 and has almost no experience of men. She is also an otaku who loves anime, manga, or otome games. The entry is about her otaku friend who asked her to go out. He has almost no experience of women even though he is over 30, too. Also, he loves anime, manga, and bishoujo games. It seems like they could get along together. But when she was having dinner with him, he kept talking about his past, and how pathetic he and his whole life was. I am an otaku, not good at making friends, and income is not good, blah blah blah…After he finished his long speech, he asked her to go out. Needless to say, she turned him down. Because he just talked about his pathetic side, and he didn’t say any postive words at all. No wonder she thought she couldn’t have a happy ending with such a wimp. There is a genre of moe called 弱気ヒーロー[yowaki hero], but it is ※ただし2次元(イケメン)に限る[tadashi nijigen(ikemen) ni kagiru].
The point is, that you wouldn’t love his weakness unless you love him in the first place. In other words, you can accept his weakness because you love him. She was not ready to hear such a pathetic story from him as they weren’t dating. After all, she concludes that I am not his mother.
This is ダメな俺を丸ごと受け止めてくれ症候群[dame na ore wo marugoto uketometekre syndrome]. It is too long to put it in English. Well, please-accept-the-pathetic-me syndrome…こんなんで正しいんだろうか（苦笑）. At any rate, it is a way for a guy to approach a girl, which means to explain how pathetic you are and ask her to accept you. Or such a thought or behavior. More or less, anyone would feel comfortable when they are speaking honestly rather than lying. Holding your worrys inside you is not so good that you feel like telling somebody. Want someone to listen. Once you start to talk, you can’t stop. And you would see you are speaking too much, but it is too late…
Meanwhile, there are people who love to talk about who they used to be. This could imply how great they are now although they used to be pathetic. In other words, they might be proud of themselves now and try to tell about it. Young ladies, which guy would you prefer? Anyway, I think it is not bad to be honest, but not always. Sometimes it is better to shut your mouth up. It wouldn’t even count a lie just because you didn’t say. Having said that, to cover everything with good stories is not always good. Sounds complicated? Yes, it is.
When you have an interview for a job, you would be asked what your good point and bad one are. It is easier to come up your weak points rather than good ones, but just telling your weakness is not good. The important thing is how you overcome the weakness. If you are always late for something, you would have to set up your alarm at the right time. If you are stubborn, you had better try to listen to others. It’s so simple, isn’t it? People would think you are doing your best to surpass your weakness.
I just said such a wimp can be accepted in 2D above, but I shall take it back. We can see Ikari Shinji getting stronger than the beginning as the story goes on. Because he has someone to protect, it’s Ayanami Rei. Kyon is a laid-back student, but actually he ends up striving to protect the world and Suzumiya Haruhi. Sato-kun in Welcome to NHK! is a good-for-nothing, but decides to get a steady life for the sake of Misaki-chan. Train Man[densha otoko] tries to change his geeky looking and follow current fashion to date the young lady. We are not that strong, but we can try to be. No one is perfect. Before you get in despair, you can do something so that she will accept you.
I have something I have been aware of; some otaku guys keep talking for their own with no break. In tonari no yaoi-chan, yaoi’s friend says,”They just keep talking about what they love, and never listen to me!(自分の萌え話ばっかりでこっちの話全然聞かないんだもん).” She could be right. そういう人、何人か知ってるから。Even if she is an otaku, don’t forget she is a lady. Most ladies want guys to listen, so just because she is an otaku, it doesn’t mean it is okay to talk about your moe stuff all the time.
Open your eyes, and broaden your world. Stay humble, but don’t be shy, that’s my motto.