Love has no shape. Whatever it is, it is up to the person so we can’t define what love is. If you can share love with your partner, it is a good thing no matter how odd it looks. It is like a cliche; love makes you happy, and drives you crazy. Nah, I am not talking about yandere here, but a unique type of love. Actually…it is an extraordinary fetishism.
In the BL anime, 僕のセクシャルハラスメント[My Sexual Harassment], there is a scene in which Mr. Honma asks Mochizuki to sleep with the president whom they have a deal since the dealer wants to do so (yes, no men in this anime are straight). Poor Mochizuki, he ends up sacrifising his body whoever he meets for the sake of Mr. Honma. Anyway, here is something we should discuss. Why does Mr. Honma get Mochizuki to have a sex with someone else? Doesn’t he love Mochizuki? If he really loves Mochizuki, he wouldn’t be able to do something like this. But Mr. Honma never forces him to do such a thing, but strictly let Mochizuki decide. He is pretty sure Mochizuki is on because he knows Mochizuki loves him. Having said that, it doesn’t seem that Mr. Honma doesn’t love him because he really looks nice to him in the bed. However, he looks fine even though Mochizuki has a sex with someone else. Why?
To my surprise, there is a scene in which Mr. Honma has a sex with Mochizuki in front of someone else, or even observes him being almost raped by someone else. As for the former scene, it is as though he shows off his sex doll. I didn’t think I could find a term to introduce in an old anime like this, that is カンダウリズム[Candaulism].
Candaulism is kind of fetishism you feel when you show off your girlfriend while she is naked or even have a sex in front of someone else. It sounds very sadistic, but at the same time it is a really masochistic behavior. Mr. Honma never looks like a masochist, but suppose he feels something by letting Mochizuki have a sex with someone else, I must say he is a Candaulist.
Why Candaulism? This stems from Kandaules[the king in the Lydia Kingdom of the olden Turkish] in the play, Le Roi Candaules(1901) by French artist, André Paul Guillaume Gide and the opera, Der König Kandaules by Austrian musician, Alexander (von) Zemlinsky(1871-1942). In this play, the king calls his servant Gyges to his room to show off his wife Nyssia when she’s naked. Because of this, Gyges and Nyssia who gets furious decide to kill the king to take over the kingdom.
Anyway, I sometimes come across such a porn video that amatuer couples secretly make love at a park, in the forest, or inside a washroom. Why do they make love in such a public place? They could be enjoying “being seen.” More or less, they have such a fetishism, I suppose so. Come to think of it, there are loads of men who enjoy taping when they do it, and even upload!
Here is one more term to explain, 寝取られ[netorare]. You can even abbreviate it as NTR. 寝取る[netoru] means to sexually snatch someone’s lover, and 寝取られ is a passive form of it. It could be both; a sadistic way that you get your lover to be raped on purpose, or a masochistic way that you feel fetishism to observe your lover to be tainted. It’s too complicated.
OMG, I have cosplayed a naked Nagisa Kaworu before. And I uploaded it on my blog to show…GYAAAAA! Am I Candaulist?